We asked three different women of different ages the same questions about men & sex

Taite, 28 yrs old:

Do you think most men have a clue of how to approach a woman? confidence is sexy.  overconfidence is gross.  underconfidence can have a boyish charm or it can make you look like a huge pussy.  pick the category you fall into, then you decide...

If not, What is the biggest mistake you feel men are making?  not taking a hint.  in approaching a woman, persistence does not pay off.  don't heckle me at the bar for 20 minutes in hope that i'll change my mind.  i won't.  

Would you ever sleep with a man you liked on the first date?  back in my single days, i would always try to wait to sleep with someone if i was really into them.  if my feelings were so-so...sure!  i made my husband wait when we first met.  i knew i wanted our relationship to last.  and i know sleeping with a dude on the first date doesn't exactly give off the greatest impression.  im a lady, dammit!

How long until a man you are seeing can assume he will have sex with you?  when will he have sex with me?  i assume if i am dating a man, and im ready to have sex, he will also be ready.  

From what you've seen & heard do you think men are getting better in bed? i think it depends with each man.  surely they get better with age?  i have a lot to look forward to!

If my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me, does that mean I'm about to be blackmailed for something?  yes, we keep mental post its of all the things we plan to use against you at the appropriate time. 

Should a woman always be greeted with a kiss? if it's from your boyfriend or husband, of course!  

Do women really like a dirty talk?  i think it depends on the woman.  id rather be told how hot i am and how my ass looks so good from behind, as opposed to dirty talk.

Can we send you text messages of what we wish to do to you that night?  sure, send away.  and then we can share them with our girlfriends and laugh at you on our next girl's night out!

How important are our shoes?  in all honesty, the MOST important.  nerd shoes will give you away in 2.5 seconds.

Does it turn you on when we ask for your advice?  you don't have to ask for my advice.  you will automatically be given it.

Can you please tell me why you're are always convinced your pregnant 24 to 48 hours before you get your period?  i never think im pregnant.  im responsible.  you should be too.

What can we do to be better in bed?  again, im hot, tell me!

What is the most comfortable way for us to ask you out on a date?  meeting for drinks is the best first date.  no pressure.  no pepper stuck in your teeth.  it gets everyone loosey goosey and the convo flowing.  ask us out for a drink.

What's the best way to ask you back to our place?  "do you want a back rub?"

How important is the cleaniness of my bathroom?  i guess not too important if we are already into you.  if we are on the fence, it could be a deal breaker.

Does it make you smile when we can write you an e-mail longer than 5 words?  taking the time to send an email, text, or leave a note, shows you were thinking of us.  it means a lot.

Can we have blow jobs when we're driving? if you really want one.

Sex in other people's bathrooms? no.

Does it turn you on sexually when we re-enter you? no.

Is anal sex overrated?  I wouldnt personally know. but from what I have heard from honest sources, it's just painful.

Can we make doodies at your apartment?  not if you want to get laid!

Sarah, 18 yrs old:

Do you think most men have a clue of how to approach a woman?
It seems to be that the nice guys don't have a clue but the assholes are overly cocky. I've yet to see a good mix.

If not, What is the biggest mistake you feel men are making?
They all seem to be scared of rejection. The shy guys take too long and have to talk themselves round to doing it and the guys who do approach women don't seem to be able to take no for an answer.

Would you ever sleep with a man you liked on the first date?
If I liked him enough definitely. It's nobody's business whether you do or not if you both want to then go for it.

How long until a man you are seeing can assume he will have sex with you?
I think my current boyfriend realised after about a week he wouldn't have to wait long.

From what you've seen & heard do you think men are getting better in bed?
You hear much more in the media about women's sexual experiences, guys don't seem to want to talk about it as much publicly as women do. I don't think men have changed much atall.

If my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me, does that mean I'm about to be blackmailed for something?
Haha, no. Unless you're feeling guilty about something then probably. I've known girls that have not had sex with their boyfriends to punish them for something that has upset them like talking to another girl or not calling them or something petty. Generally though I'd say no.

Should a woman always be greeted with a kiss?
I'm quite shy so if it was like a first date I'd say no. Guys shouldn't feel they have to be overly romantic. There are two people in relationships.

Do women really like a dirty talk?
I think most women do. I've known quite a few women that love being called a "whore" or a "slut". Although they don't openly discuss it with friends alot.

Can we send you text messages of what we wish to do to you that night?
My boyfriend does regularly and I do it to him too. It builds anticipation and excitement and makes you look forward to the night ahead more.

How important are our shoes?
I love shoes but I'm not bothered about guys shoes. Unless he's in heels. That could be awkward.

Does it turn you on when we ask for your advice?
Not really. I feel wanted and usually if one of us is upset and we talk about things we end up having sex. So maybe somewhere deep down it does.

Can you please tell me why you're are always convinced your pregnant 24 to 48 hours before you get your period.
I'm really bad for that. I always panic and think the worst. I thought it was just because I was so pessimistic. I never have any reason to think I am but I always seem to doubt myself. I can't seem to understand why though?

What can we do to be better in bed?
From talking to friends I'd say more oral and more positions. Women get bored easily and most prefer oral to sex.

What is the most comfortable way for us to ask you out on a date?
I'd say text, email or i.m to be honest. The guy doesn't have the embarrassment of asking a girl to her face and being turned down and the woman doesn't have the risk of seeing the guy hurt if she says no. Works best for both parties I'd say.

What's the best way to ask you back to our place?
Just ask out right. Don't bother with the "Wanna come up for coffee?" routine. Girls no 90% of the time theres to coffee involved.

How important is the cleaniness of my bathroom?
As long as we can safely walk to the toilet, do what we have to doon a clean toilet seat and be able to wash our hands with actual soap then not really.

Does it make you smile when we can write you an e-mail longer than 5 words?
Depends what the 5 words are. They could say "I love you" and that makes every woman smile. Unless its from some weirdo who won't take no for an answer. I'd say any email from a guy I'm involed with would make me smile. Most of them don't bother.

Can we have blow jobs when we're driving?
As long as you don't crash then yeah. Probably best to pull over though.

Sex in other people's bathrooms?
If the feeling takes you why not! Unless theres people standing outside. No thanks.

Does it turn you on sexually when we re-enter you?
Yeah, I can't describe it. You can feel it more the second time though. I think thats what makes it so good.

Is anal sex overrated?
I'd say yeah. Theres this whole taboo with anal like its so bad but its so good. I prefer normal sex any day. Although guys seem to love having girls on all 4's.

Can makes doodies at your apartment?
I dunno what that is sorry.

Jana, 36 yrs old:

Do you think most men have a clue of how to approach a woman? I think by the time a man has decided to be brave and approach a woman, he's got what he's going to say planned already. I think most men try to be original, so going with a plan to make the woman remember you is a good approach. Most men are prepared for rejection too, so I'd say yes, most men know how to approach a woman. The hard part is determining if the guy who's approaching you has become a man yet.

If not, What is the biggest mistake you feel men are making?
Even though I answered yes above, a really common mistake is for a man to approach a woman with a comment on the physical features of a woman. Tell us something about the way we look AFTER you have made some small talk, not right out of the gate.

Would you ever sleep with a man you liked on the first date?
Yes, and I think it is an antiquated notion to think a woman stores her morality in between her legs. A woman will sleep with a man on the first date for a lot of wrong reasons, but remember there are smart ones who actually do it because I really want to feel your body against mine.

How long until a man you are seeing can assume he will have sex with you?
For me personally, it would depend on the level of attraction I have for him, not on a specific length of time. I can have sex with someone fairly soon into seeing him if I don't consider him relationship material. I'll make a romantic man wait longer because courtship is foreplay.

From what you've seen & heard do you think men are getting better in bed? Yes for sure. I think men are realizing that long lasting satisfaction in a relationship only happens when both people's needs are met.

If my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me, does that mean I'm about to be blackmailed for something? Not in my world, but I'm not passive-aggressive with my sexuality.

Should a woman always be greeted with a kiss? No, but a handshake that involves two hands is good for a first date. Something like pulling out my chair or helping me with my jacket will score way higher than kissing me upon arrival.

Do women really like a dirty talk? I do like dirty talk, but it has to be tactful and engaging. I want you to tell me how good I make you feel, but I don't want to be called dirty names or hear cheesy lines from your favorite porn.

Can we send you text messages of what we wish to do to you that night? Absolutely! Why not start with mental foreplay?

How important are our shoes? It is important that you have them, that they are clean, and that they are not the same type you have worn since middle school.

Does it turn you on when we ask for your advice? If we are talking about the bedroom, yes and no. Ask me if I like when you..., but then pay attention to my sounds and movements too. Too much questioning makes me feel like you are not confident in your abilities.

Can you please tell me why you're are always convinced your pregnant 24 to 48 hours before you get your period. I don't feel this way, but if it's 24 to 48 hours after I'm supposed to get it and it's not there...whoa, look out. I'm like a time bomb.

What can we do to be better in bed? Slooowwww doooowwwnn. Women like the lasting experience, and it takes more time for our minds to connect with our bodies. Quickies are good sometimes, but not all the time.

What is the most comfortable way for us to ask you out on a date? Ask me without beating around the bush. Don't say, "Do you want to hang out sometime?". Does that mean you want a new friend, or that you want to add me to a list of women you are compiling? Ask me, "Can I take you to dinner next weekend?" or "Would you like to go to the movie with me on Friday?" That lets me know that I'm probably the only one you are asking out.

What's the best way to ask you back to our place? Be prepared ahead of time, and make sure your house is clean. Once you know I'll be comfortable at your house, ask me if I'd like to come in and visit for a while. And when I go, be fine if I don't want to see your bedroom the first time. Leave me wanting more, not wanting less.

How important is the cleaniness of my bathroom? It's very important, because if I think of you as having poor hygiene, I'm probably not going to want to touch you. Pee on your toilet seat means you probably have pee on your hands.

Does it make you smile when we can write you an e-mail longer than 5 words? Yes, it's nice to know you are having a complex thought about me.

Can we have blow jobs when we're driving? Of course, but let's wait until we are on a road trip instead of midday traffic.

Sex in other people's bathrooms? Gross.

Does it turn you on sexually when we re-enter you? Yes, it shows me that you want it to last, and you pulling out tells me you are very excited but not ready to come yet.

Is anal sex overrated? No, it's underrated, and is part of a well rounded sexual relationship.

Can we make doodies at your apartment? Not unless you know that you are going to have a 30 minute buffer zone that I won't be in that bathroom after you, and you better not leave one trace of your existence in there.

- by: Jesse Fleig